Andy, sorry for commenting upon the scam issue in your thread. I understand it is an offtop here. But this kind of complaints appeared in the thread started by you as well.
I am not picking at the age of your partners. Moreover, as a person, surprisingly tending to like senior men, I can say that not all marriages with a big age difference are alike (as well as same age partnerships)...
I am glad to hear you are no loner alone. As for your health, since you came off clear, life has given you another chance, use it properly this time.
I wish you happiness.