Liana, from my experience winks do not work, if you are interested, in a man, send a short letter keep it simple, and use the same format to all the men you are interested in, I have been on this site on and off for about a year now, and I very rarely respond to winks. Ask the right questions, and if the answers are not to your liking, then move on. Get a man friend,to ask the right questions for you. Your brother or the husband of a girlfriend to ask the right questions for you. A man can tell you better if another man is serious or not. And vice versa.