I think that we should be beyond obeying and commanding in this times. Life is quite complicated and there should be synergies and cooperation in relationships. Nice theory, isn't it? But what in case if decisions are needed? Well maybe the solution coming from the more competent partner should have more weight. I know a lot about computers, so it would be better if I decide when buying a new PC. Maybe my partner understands better which washing machine is more suitable and so on. But just saying:"ты мужчина, ты знаеш лучше" is just too simple nowadays.