Conversation over days or weeks...HA-HA Conversations are OK, but action is better. You are here not only for conversation. Sure you should talk to her at the beginning and during this conversation u understand if she ok for u or not. And if -yes , just act, buy the ticket + book the hotel + buy any present and flight to her. Why long conversation? It is irritating a little.This is the reason why they stopped. Very often a woman cannot express directly what she expects from you.She prefers u to guess.