And do you do all this and send letter first to womens? And what about if a woman or a man dont have full profile not because they lazy or maybe because dont want share all information and think better write later in private message if someone ask because not all people want write theirs interests to show all. Better write when someone ask about that. And "what are you doing here"...yes maybe boring but seems not such bad question...just help to know what really a person looking for here...what priority have...looking serious relations for marriage and family o just temporary here for fun time.And if a man replies "truth" that helps understand main aim to be here and begin o not begin communication with him. Question only for that.