Ok lets imagine this man is a truck driver having a grey long beard, long grey hair. And the woman would tell him - first shave of your beard, then cut your hair short and color it, men should color hair, then change your profession to some other and only then I can love and accept you. What would be a man's reaction? There are a lot of things I would want to change about some men as well, but I wouldn't tell that a person as I know it's then not my person as person't appearance is usually a reflection of his or her inner self. You can change a form of a nose, but you can't change the look in the eyes or add sincere smile on that face.