Dear Rob,
Yes, you're right that dating is a lottery but there's a good hand which can lead if you're honest. It's very unpleasant to read that all ladies are searching for money only. Rob, can you imagine that there are women who do not care fo money as the main goal in their life, who are very busy at work, who can find time for a hobby or just to read books, who use public transport and are happy with everything they have in their life. But one thing is missing - a soulmate with whom she can share. I don't know what you mean by saying 'better life' but for everyone I think it is 'new opportunities'.
A friend of mine has been living in England for about 2 years. Her partner has got 6 dogs!!! Each time when she goes to the hairdresser's or phones her mum to Ukraine, he says - 'You cost me much'. 'You spend much money on your dogs.' - she answers. 'Yes, he says, - but you are my priority.'
As for me, I wouldn't like to be a priority after dogs! I've got a good life in Ukraine!
Good luck to you in this lottery anyway.