Hi Kal,
I would adopt, the quicker the better because:
1) I respect myself. Actions you ask about are miserable. Making a decision of moving to my chosen one's country I admit everything I know about him, if he didn't keep back (drinks, drugs, unemployed...) I would learn family traditions, lifestyle, how to contact or not to the neighbors. The man whom I respect and love mustn't be ashamed of me.
2) I want to find once and forever! That's why I'm here. But there is a category of people who are always in search, they cannot be happy even if they have a loving husband or wife, they cannot stop searching. Searching out someone, somehow, somewhere...doubtful hobby 😒
I think it happens when they're looking for anything else, not the love of their life. Being married still being in search...that smells awful.
What makes me happy, is the only man whom I chose to talk and laugh with, to have a cup of coffee with, who looks forward, missing me, hurrying home to see me... endless list of little things we can do for each other...just be calm together. Isn't it wonderful? I would prefer everyday routine with my beloved to a 'romantic' adventures of 'a detective' 😉
3) I want to enjoy being a woman 😙 not a detective 😎. I think it's the best adventure of all.
That's my opinion considering relations must be mutual. Let's stop and look into eyes of someone who is nearby, perhaps deep in them we'll see the reflection of ourselves...
Thank you, Kal, for the question.