I think this is not fair to the other person : first you accept him as he is, and then begin to alter or demand something to change. Thus you break his individuality. If it starts to change, it will be another person (externally and possibly internally). The other case, if the person is "spoiled" in the course of your communication (e.g. was the smell😊😉), then you have the right to Express and this will be right.