Ahh, I could probably write a book on this subject,,
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Your observations apply to 90% of the women you will meet at any Russian dating site.
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I learned a lot about this 15 years ago,, when I first looked for a wife on the Internet.
Internet dating was very different at that time, but women and their behavior was the same.
I could tell endless stories of misunderstood letters, answers that were meant for another man,,
women that just disappeared when I arrived at their airport to meet with them.
Happy vacations that ended in nothing, disguised "prostitutes" looking for a man to take them away,
traumatic situations were women broke into despair and crying from being unable to communicate.
Sometimes inviting the woman to my home, at other times meeting her for a vacation in an exotic place.
But mostly I traveled to meet with them in their hometown.
It took me two years of endless writing and meetings,,,,,,,,,
before I finally married the one I am now divorcing with, after 13 years together.
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I probably do the same "mistake" as you, writing long and in our opinion "interesting" letters.
In addition I usually add some photos also to support my writings.....
This can be very annoying for some women, who feel somewhat unable to write as good, and lacking photos also.
One woman (with a university master degree and a lawyer by profession) wrote the following to me:
I don't feel comfortable communicating with you, as I'm unable to write such nice words dressed with beautiful photos.....
We easily forget that we are somehow living in the "entitled" world while they often feel as being less able to "impress" us.
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But I do all things intentionally,
the woman I'm looking for should be strong enough to never feel herself "overwhelmed" when communicating with me.
If she prefers writing short and precise to the point answers I have no problem with that.
But I love it, when I am able to ignite something in her mind that can get her going.
I also add some nice words about my x-wife in the first letters to get rid of those who are just jealous by nature.
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As a rule I never talk about any kind of objects that can be touched by hand or has monetary value.
I prefer talking about things that we can both enjoy on an equal level,,
Family, children, animals, nature and activities like walking, swimming, traveling inside your own country and so on.
And also about activities of the mind, like beliefs, ideas, values, interests, reading.......whatever...
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Try to always ask a few questions she can easily answer about family, children, friends, living, surroundings, happenings............
It will make her feel more comfortable when starting to write an answer to your letter.
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A wise thing to do is to write about plans for visiting her in the immediate future...
Just like there is a large percentage of men that writes to women for the excitement alone,,,
there are a lot of women doing exactly the same,, they are writing letters to you for the excitement alone..
They will go silent immediately when you propose a face to face meeting in the very near future.
From my experience this will remove approx. one out of five that are seemingly serious when writing.
All serious women will love to hear about your plans for visiting them.
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Thats it for today.......