I won't pay for a trip for her to come and see me or take a vacation together at my expense. I will visit her in her country and would like to have her show me around her town. As soon as a man pays for such a large expense, he doesn't know whether she is interested in him or the trips he pays for. In her country I will reimburse her if she had to take a plane or train to meet me somewhere other than her home town. I have had two Russian women visit me in America, and I paid for everything once they were here, just as I would on a date with an American woman.