I agree with all that, and I didn't intend to head down any competition road with who has suffered most, it was never about that. I brought up my own life as you kind of just played off that single men couldn't have their own expenses and issues in the way that she could, if you met me when I started my business coffee dates were both tough to pay for and to find time for, I struggled back then but 10+ years later, today I can buy the coffee shop for the date if I want lol so that was the point I was trying to bring up, everybody has things in their life as I understand Galina does. I still would have paid then as I would today as I accept that is how it is going to be and I would not be there with the woman if that expense was a deterrent, it is the cost of getting to know somebody and I gladly pay it. I guess my bigger issue is the talking point that men are required to do this and that, that women were born with the right to be taken care of...this is something we men do because we want to, to get to know a woman and for the women in our lives it isn't something that we have to do and I feel like some women are losing sight of that.