Nata, the question don’t translate very good into English. Maybe why no responce from men.
Initially I go for appearance but after talking I except a woman will look different to photos when we meet some better, some worse, some indifferent. The intelligence is most important after initial photo excitement. But it’s a two way road hence I not like sour grapes 🍇 if a man 👨 don’t meet the girls expectations (within reason)

I try send photos and videos to who I speak to avoid any problems later! Re writing ✍🏻 I put in what I think the person is worthy I write 1st or 2nd is no matter to me... hope I read the question correctly