Mikaela ,

Well I don't send a wink if I am sure that I will not respond to an answer of the woman.
Why other men do this ? I can't say.

But I believe that it depends on what you say and how you say it , when you send them a reply.

It is also important to know if these men are a paying member or just a standard member.

Standard members CAN NOT send or read letters from women ....
So , you need to check what type of member they are.

It also may help , to look from what country they are.

I hope that you will have success and find the right man.

Eric