Micah ,

Permit me , to join , your conversation.I understand , that , you asked this question
to the women , on this site.

When reading , your question , and your thinking , about this , I do get a sense , that , there is something , not clear , for you.

You should realize , that , the culture , and the system , in which , these women , live , is
different , from the life , in the USA.

As a human being , we all have , dreams and wishes , and hopes.
Please be aware , that some words , may be interpreted , by a different meaning.
By women from EE countries , or Russia.

You should also be aware , that these women , don`t immediately , tell you , what is on their mind or in their heart.
You need , to have a great deal , of trust and sincerity , before such a woman , will share some deep emotions , with you.

Talking about dreams.Well , I am not a psychiatrist.
But in this dialogue , you can have a dream , which is more like a fairy tale.
When you are young , you have all , these ideas , of how , you would like , that your life , will develop.

You will want , to find , the prince , on the white horse.The knight , in shining armor.
Who will respect you , and defend your life , and your honour.

For some , it may happen.But , when the fairy tale comes to an end , then it is another lesson learned.
And , the word dream , may transfer , to something like wishing.

When , wishing , for something , you have already anticipated , that it may not happen.
Right ??

So , I believe , that her response , to you , was , what she wanted to let you know.What she , believes , is her reality , at this moment.

You didn`t say , from , which country , she is.But , like other`s here , have mentioned.
Life is hard , and , yes , you may call it a struggle , the way , things are now.

When she has children , it will make things , even harder.And , she may have , to put much energy , to deal , with the important issues , for tomorrow.

So , in this respect , I understand , this answer from her.Realize her personal conditions , at his moment.

I don`t know , if you were ever , in an EE country.
Take time , to learn about their culture , and their traditions.

If you can speak Russian or Ukrainian , it will help you , a great deal.

Eric