I have visited two women, my ex--wife and this girl, and both times were for developing a serious relationship. Why is it so hard to believe that meeting ones' friends, family and seeing where they live is not part of learning about a person. I think it is necessary step. When a girl comes to you, especially the first time, it is not like living normally. I think several visits are necessary to make a good decision, so why not go to her? It is definitely not a waste of time.