In my opinion, no real man would ever expect a woman he truly cares about to pay for her own ticket to visit. If you're going as a tourist and a friend, that may be a different story, but if there are serious relations, then there should be no question. If a man cannot afford to visit first, cannot afford to pay for his love to come to him, then he is not ready for a wife! Unemployment and crisis be damned. I live in a city that experienced and is still experiencing a huge crisis: Las Vegas. I closed my business years ago and working to start it again. It is easy to find an excuse to not do something. To sit on the butt and tell reasons why something cannot be done. My advice for all the girls are to avoid the men who choose to not make things happen. We all make mistakes, but the real men will make the effort for the woman he loves. Now, don;t get me started on when the woman does not appreciate the effort...