Tom, this not a hornet's nest; we're simply having a friendly discussion. Please relax and enjoy. There is much wisdom you can learn here, but you must be willing to be objective. You should be open to some of these concepts; I do not believe you are. You should have known that some would disagree with you when bringing up a subject like "who is happier, the woman being cheated on or the woman being cheated with?" Please think about it.