Tenderness comes as a result of surviving great suffering and hardship, and not becoming bitter, Tanya. Often a terrible price is paid by those who become tender; often, a bitter price is then again paid because one is tender. One cannot fake tenderness; she knows. Man should give his woman everything; but especially tenderness. This is why I roll my eyes at the girls who wait for the athlete. Good musicians can never be great unless they have suffered. Surviving hardship make us better people, if we do not become bitter. Do you like my little gems of wisdom!!? ))))